Don't take it on your heart (dil pe mat le yaar, in hindi)
That's the one line I've heard almost regularly in the two decades of my life (atleast ever since I could understand it)...You see, I'm a rather EMO sorta person..painfully sensitive about small things at times. Most of this centres around my sensitivity about people. WHY? I sometimes question myself..it's never or rather almost never rewarding to count too much on people. To think too much about their words and actions...is pointless. Most people are rather insensitive about these pithy little things.
Detachment..is key. I'm learning to be a more or less solitary crusader. I've just stepped in to the cold, crude, selfish world of offices, co-workers and office-politics. (Touchwood) I've not had it that bad till now. But this one piece of advice rings in my ears everytime I feel let down by somebody. The boss (I shall not name anyone) said: "Hang out, be social, exchange talk and laughter..but NEVER get too close to anyone. It ends up hurting you when you start counting on people..even if they are really nice to you." It was sound advice..not very good relation advice though. But I feel, in the larger scheme of things, it matters. "You don't join places to make friends alone..you join them to make yourself. If good people come across, it's just a bonus!" The only glitch - Who then, are friends? In an increasingly competitive, time-strapped world, the definition is becoming increasingly narrow. Unfortunately. Reality bites. But one HAS to learn how to survive it and survive with flying colours. Happiness maybe elusive, but it's still there. One just has to search harder and be thick-skinned in the pursuit.