Everything's relative...
What inspired this blog post was a recent sit down with a close acquaintance. I've always maintained that somehow we can let our secrets spill in strangers simply because we may not really be seeing them again. It was another such momentary meeting, where the girl (I shall not reveal her name for privacy purposes) talked about feeling inferior in relation to some people around her.

The said person, lets call her Janice, and I were talking about our families and friends when she touched upon how she feels around her prettier, popular cousins who seemed a lot more accomplished than she felt herself. One of her cousins is at Yale and another at Harvard and they're both quite an item, or so she said. This of course prompted my dormant agony aunt to surface and help reduce the girl's inferiority complex.

But truth is, we do indeed find ourselves feeling a bit low when surrounded by super confident, successful people with a lot going for them and going a tad weak-kneed in the presence of stunning people isn't just a saying..In fact studies have shown that men find their WAGS unattractive when they've just come back from the company of far more gorgeous women. Explains why some women hit the roof when their men want a bit of playboy fun..hahaha.

I think it happens to everyone - sometimes when you're at a restuarant and a really hot group of girls and guys is having a blast at the next table, you suddenly start feeling a bit self-conscious. People who deny such feelings are probably lying to themselves or are just uber confident (good for you!). Here's when a healthy self-esteem, a moderate feeling of contentment and having some people who love you regardless of everything matter the most.

After speaking to Janice, I thought myself lucky to have some of these things that I sometimes take for granted. As for her, I just told her to take it in her stride. There are always bigger and better things than being infatuated with ourselves and our feelings of mediocrity/superiority versus those of others. Period.